Reflecting on my 18-year relationship, I’m sharing seven key lessons that have helped us stay connected and keep growing together through different seasons of life.
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I Feel Disconnected From My Partner, What Should I Do?
Feeling distant in a relationship is more common than you think. This post explores what you can do when you feel disconnected from your partner — starting with curiosity.
What is your relationship dance? (Part 3: The Seesaw)
What is your relationship dance? (Part 3: The Seesaw) The Seesaw is a common relationship dance found not only in couples but also in our daily interactions with the people around us. In this dynamic, one person starts to take on more responsibilities (“overfunctioning”) while the other becomes increasingly dependent (“underfunctioning”). The more one partnerContinue reading “What is your relationship dance? (Part 3: The Seesaw)”
What is your relationship dance? (Part 2: The chase)
What is your relationship dance? (Part 2: The chase) Previously, we delved into a common dance observed in couples: The Circular Pattern of Conflict and Distance. One particular manifestation of this circular dance is what I called “The Chase”, in which there continues to be a pattern of conflict and distance in the relationship, butContinue reading “What is your relationship dance? (Part 2: The chase)”
What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance)
What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance) The dynamics between a couple can often look like a dance, where their interactions follow a pattern that can become ingrained and repetitive. The first common one is the circular dance of conflict and distance. When tension arises, the couple often resorts to blaming, criticizing,Continue reading “What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance)”
Is your autopilot mode ON?
Is your autopilot mode ON? When we are on autopilot, we allow ourselves to go through each day as a passenger. We might recognize some unhealthy patterns in our relationship, but for some reason, these patterns just keep repeating themselves. When we are on autopilot, it might look like this: Not paying attention to ourContinue reading “Is your autopilot mode ON?”
4 tips for a better conversation
4 tips for a better conversation How we talk to our partner is very important, especially when tension is high. While it might feel good in the moment to just blurt out our thoughts, we are only having a solo conversation if we are not able to talk effectively with our partner. Here are fourContinue reading “4 tips for a better conversation”
Choosing to be together
Choosing to be together “The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don’t want to” – Harriet Lerner “Don’t want to” are very powerful words. It means that we have a choice. We CHOOSE to be in a relationship, not because we NEED to be in one. As longContinue reading “Choosing to be together”
We don’t need to be the same to be close
We don’t need to be the same to be close When we think of being close to our partner, we often associate it with having a lot of things in common with each other. Maybe it’s having the same interests, seeing things in the same perspective or striving for the same goals. The assumption isContinue reading “We don’t need to be the same to be close”
Will I choose to forgive?
Will I choose to forgive? The topic of forgiveness came up in a recent marriage workshop that I’ve been attending and I really like the way they described forgiveness. Oftentimes, when it comes to dealing with unresolved hurt, we say, “But I just can’t forgive them”. But the truth is, it’s not so much aboutContinue reading “Will I choose to forgive?”
Couples on the Road Counselling 