Therapy on a good day Most couples seek therapy when things feel unmanageable in their relationship. This is typically when our survival mode is turned on and all we want is to keep our heads above the water. We want to get instant comfort and support for our situation. This is also the time whenContinue reading “Therapy on a good day”
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What are your “sensitive” topics?
What are your “sensitive” topics? I once heard that a good indicator of a healthy relationship is to see if the couple can be comfortable in talking about ANY topics with each other. In other words, if the relationship is healthy, there should be very few “sensitive” subjects. In a healthy relationship, the couple willContinue reading “What are your “sensitive” topics?”
The perfect age to get married is…
The perfect age to get married is… I used to think 25 was the perfect age to get married. 25 was perfect because I would still be young. We could have a few years to ourselves and then we could have our first kid by 30. Perfect life eh? I had this all planned outContinue reading “The perfect age to get married is…”
Can I (truly) change a person?
Can I (truly) change a person? Recently, my husband asked me this question, “Do you think we can change another person?” And I thought for a moment. I think realistically, we can. We see it happen all the time. A husband doesn’t go out with his friends because he doesn’t want to upset his wife.Continue reading “Can I (truly) change a person?”
Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage
Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage From the very beginning, my goal has always been to build a healthy marriage and not a happy marriage. Why? In a happy marriage: Conflicts might be avoided at all costs There might be too much “us” and not enough “self” Couples might give up easily when the marriage isContinue reading “Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage”
Can you help me fix my partner?
Can you help me fix my partner? When couples come to therapy, I hear these questions a lot.. Can you help me fix my partner? Can you tell them why they are wrong? Can you tell them why they should listen to me? The truth is, I cannot fix them. You cannot fix them. NobodyContinue reading “Can you help me fix my partner?”
What are your non-negotiables?
What are your non-negotiables? Getting clear on what our own non-negotiables are is the first step in setting healthy boundaries in our relationship. Non-negotiables are things we will not budge on no matter what, and they are based on our own values and principles. They are different from the “nice-to-haves”. Some of us might haveContinue reading “What are your non-negotiables?”
Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship?
Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship? Do you feel like you are always responsible for everything? Do you often wish that your partner could do more? Are you feeling tired of always having to pick up their slack? If so, you might be the overfunctioner in the relationship. The dynamic of over/underfunctioning in aContinue reading “Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship?”
Long-term relationships = boring?
Long-term relationships = boring? “That’s the way it is with long-term relationships” is something that I hear a lot. We often assume that couples are the most affectionate towards each other during the honeymoon stage. While that might or might not be true, the amount of affection we have for our partner really has littleContinue reading “Long-term relationships = boring?”
5-min conversation challenge
5-min conversation challenge Can you carry a one-on-one conversation with someone for 5 minutes without touching on any of the following topics? Celebrities The weather TV shows The news Gossips Anything about other people It might be harder than you think. Admittedly, some of these topics are fun to talk about, but they are alsoContinue reading “5-min conversation challenge”
Couples on the Road Counselling 