Long-term relationships = boring?

“That’s the way it is with long-term relationships” is something that I hear a lot.

We often assume that couples are the most affectionate towards each other during the honeymoon stage. While that might or might not be true, the amount of affection we have for our partner really has little to do with the length of our relationship.

A healthy relationship is not supposed to feel dull and boring, no matter how long it has been. Showing affection (physically, verbally or emotionally) means that..

• We feel interested in our partner
• We want them to feel loved and cared for; and
• We actually feel good in the relationship

If you have stopped showing affection towards each other, then you really need to dig deeper and ask yourself questions like:

• How am I feeling in the relationship?
• Is there anything I am upset about?
• When was the last time I felt affectionate towards them?
• What was different then and now?
• What would make me feel more interested in my partner?

“That’s the way it is with long-term relationships” is far from the truth. There’s usually a reason (or some reasons) for our behaviours.

The good news: It is possible to enjoy another honeymoon, or countless of honeymoons in a long-term relationship, as long as we are willing to work on it.