Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship? Do you feel like you are always responsible for everything? Do you often wish that your partner could do more? Are you feeling tired of always having to pick up their slack? If so, you might be the overfunctioner in the relationship. The dynamic of over/underfunctioning in aContinue reading “Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship?”
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Long-term relationships = boring?
Long-term relationships = boring? “That’s the way it is with long-term relationships” is something that I hear a lot. We often assume that couples are the most affectionate towards each other during the honeymoon stage. While that might or might not be true, the amount of affection we have for our partner really has littleContinue reading “Long-term relationships = boring?”
5-min conversation challenge
5-min conversation challenge Can you carry a one-on-one conversation with someone for 5 minutes without touching on any of the following topics? Celebrities The weather TV shows The news Gossips Anything about other people It might be harder than you think. Admittedly, some of these topics are fun to talk about, but they are alsoContinue reading “5-min conversation challenge”
NEW PREMARITAL COURSE: Ready, Set, I Do
NEW PREMARITAL COURSE: Ready, Set, I Do I am excited to announce that I will be partnering with Living Systems to teach a marriage preparation course, Ready, Set, I Do this coming Fall! This course is perfect for you if you and your partner are currently engaged or considering marriage. There will be many opportunitiesContinue reading “NEW PREMARITAL COURSE: Ready, Set, I Do”
Talk to your partner, not your friend
Talk to your partner, not your friend The best person to talk to about the problems in your relationship isn’t your friend, your mom or your coworker or your brother. It’s the person who you are in the relationship with. Your partner is the who one who needs to know what’s on your mind, what’sContinue reading “Talk to your partner, not your friend”
Marriage is the union of two family systems
Marriage is the union of two family systems Does any of the following sound familiar to you? “Why does your mom have to call you every day?” “I would never parent my kids like the way my parents did!” “Do we have to spend the holidays with your relatives?” “Please don’t ever mention about myContinue reading “Marriage is the union of two family systems”
What is your win for today?
What is your win for today? This is something that I’ve learned from my husband. Even on the dullest day, he would ask me, “What is your win for today?”. Eventually, this became our habit. Instead of just asking each other, “How was your day?”, we also like to end the day by reflecting onContinue reading “What is your win for today?”
Is getting cold feet normal?
Is getting cold feet normal? Second guessing our own decision, especially the big ones like “SHOULD WE GET MARIRED?!” is not uncommon. The unknown can be scary. And all the what-if questions can start popping up in our heads… “What if we make the wrong decision?”“What if I’m not going to be a good husband/wife?”“WhatContinue reading “Is getting cold feet normal?”
What gets you triggered?
What gets you triggered? In any given relationship, there are 4 areas that we are naturally sensitive to as human beings. These are the four forces of sensitivity: Attention Approval Distress Expectations Of these four, we tend to be particularly sensitive to one of them. That means when we experience it (or lack thereof) inContinue reading “What gets you triggered?”
Is divorce an option?
Is divorce an option? One question that I would encourage all my couples to ask before they get married is…“Is divorce an option?”. I know it’s not a popular question. And it probably doesn’t feel right to ask when you are happily engaged. But it is an important one to ask yourself and each other.Continue reading “Is divorce an option?”
Couples on the Road Counselling 