We’ve all heard of the saying “happy wife, happy life.” At first, it seems like a light-hearted relationship advice, maybe even good wisdom. But if we take a closer look at it, this saying is actually quite misleading and in the long run, it can even be harmful to your relationship.
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Choosing to be together
Choosing to be together “The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don’t want to” – Harriet Lerner “Don’t want to” are very powerful words. It means that we have a choice. We CHOOSE to be in a relationship, not because we NEED to be in one. As longContinue reading “Choosing to be together”
We don’t need to be the same to be close
We don’t need to be the same to be close When we think of being close to our partner, we often associate it with having a lot of things in common with each other. Maybe it’s having the same interests, seeing things in the same perspective or striving for the same goals. The assumption isContinue reading “We don’t need to be the same to be close”
Will I choose to forgive?
Will I choose to forgive? The topic of forgiveness came up in a recent marriage workshop that I’ve been attending and I really like the way they described forgiveness. Oftentimes, when it comes to dealing with unresolved hurt, we say, “But I just can’t forgive them”. But the truth is, it’s not so much aboutContinue reading “Will I choose to forgive?”
There are no quick fixes to relationship issues
There are no quick fixes to relationship issues I recently came across a BBC article that talks about the myth of boosting our immune systems and how there are no scientifically proven ways to do so through a superfood or pill. In there, it says “People prefer easy, quick solutions but health depends on veryContinue reading “There are no quick fixes to relationship issues”
What are your “sensitive” topics?
What are your “sensitive” topics? I once heard that a good indicator of a healthy relationship is to see if the couple can be comfortable in talking about ANY topics with each other. In other words, if the relationship is healthy, there should be very few “sensitive” subjects. In a healthy relationship, the couple willContinue reading “What are your “sensitive” topics?”
The perfect age to get married is…
The perfect age to get married is… I used to think 25 was the perfect age to get married. 25 was perfect because I would still be young. We could have a few years to ourselves and then we could have our first kid by 30. Perfect life eh? I had this all planned outContinue reading “The perfect age to get married is…”
Marriage is a journey not a destination
Marriage is a journey not a destination You have come so far together. You are ready to make a lifelong commitment. Everything feels like it’s all about getting to this point. But remember it doesn’t just stop here, there is so much more the two of you will continue to experience together after your wedding.Continue reading “Marriage is a journey not a destination”
Therapy is not Q&A
Therapy is not Q&A I hate to break this to you, but if you are hoping that someone can tell you exactly what you should or should not do when you go to therapy, you will be disappointed. While a therapist might know what a healthy relationship looks like, we cannot give you an exactContinue reading “Therapy is not Q&A”
Couples on the Road Counselling 