Choosing to be together “The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don’t want to” – Harriet Lerner “Don’t want to” are very powerful words. It means that we have a choice. We CHOOSE to be in a relationship, not because we NEED to be in one. As longContinue reading “Choosing to be together”
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We don’t need to be the same to be close
We don’t need to be the same to be close When we think of being close to our partner, we often associate it with having a lot of things in common with each other. Maybe it’s having the same interests, seeing things in the same perspective or striving for the same goals. The assumption isContinue reading “We don’t need to be the same to be close”
Will I choose to forgive?
Will I choose to forgive? The topic of forgiveness came up in a recent marriage workshop that I’ve been attending and I really like the way they described forgiveness. Oftentimes, when it comes to dealing with unresolved hurt, we say, “But I just can’t forgive them”. But the truth is, it’s not so much aboutContinue reading “Will I choose to forgive?”
There are no quick fixes to relationship issues
There are no quick fixes to relationship issues I recently came across a BBC article that talks about the myth of boosting our immune systems and how there are no scientifically proven ways to do so through a superfood or pill. In there, it says “People prefer easy, quick solutions but health depends on veryContinue reading “There are no quick fixes to relationship issues”
How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship?
How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship? Do you ever wonder why it is so easy for some people to lose themselves when they are in an intimate relationship? On the other hand, why do some people cutoff from everyone who they have conflicts with? I think Murray Bowen’s concept ofContinue reading “How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship?”
What do differences mean in a relationship?
What do differences mean in a relationship? The wife turns to her husband and says, “Look how pretty these trees are!” The husband replies, “Really?” The wife gets upset and says, “How come you never agree with what I say?!” And the argument begins… Does this dialogue sound familiar to you at all? While itContinue reading “What do differences mean in a relationship?”
How does marriage change your relationship?
How does marriage change your relationship? “Marriage is overrated.” This is something that I’ve heard more and more in recent years. Why do we need to sign a paper when we are already in a committed relationship? What difference does it make? I attended the Bowen Centre’s Dating & Mating conference last month and reallyContinue reading “How does marriage change your relationship?”
Therapy on a good day
Therapy on a good day Most couples seek therapy when things feel unmanageable in their relationship. This is typically when our survival mode is turned on and all we want is to keep our heads above the water. We want to get instant comfort and support for our situation. This is also the time whenContinue reading “Therapy on a good day”
What are your “sensitive” topics?
What are your “sensitive” topics? I once heard that a good indicator of a healthy relationship is to see if the couple can be comfortable in talking about ANY topics with each other. In other words, if the relationship is healthy, there should be very few “sensitive” subjects. In a healthy relationship, the couple willContinue reading “What are your “sensitive” topics?”
The perfect age to get married is…
The perfect age to get married is… I used to think 25 was the perfect age to get married. 25 was perfect because I would still be young. We could have a few years to ourselves and then we could have our first kid by 30. Perfect life eh? I had this all planned outContinue reading “The perfect age to get married is…”
Couples on the Road Counselling 