There are no quick fixes to relationship issues I recently came across a BBC article that talks about the myth of boosting our immune systems and how there are no scientifically proven ways to do so through a superfood or pill. In there, it says “People prefer easy, quick solutions but health depends on veryContinue reading “There are no quick fixes to relationship issues”
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How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship?
How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship? Do you ever wonder why it is so easy for some people to lose themselves when they are in an intimate relationship? On the other hand, why do some people cutoff from everyone who they have conflicts with? I think Murray Bowen’s concept ofContinue reading “How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship?”
What do differences mean in a relationship?
What do differences mean in a relationship? The wife turns to her husband and says, “Look how pretty these trees are!” The husband replies, “Really?” The wife gets upset and says, “How come you never agree with what I say?!” And the argument begins… Does this dialogue sound familiar to you at all? While itContinue reading “What do differences mean in a relationship?”
How does marriage change your relationship?
How does marriage change your relationship? “Marriage is overrated.” This is something that I’ve heard more and more in recent years. Why do we need to sign a paper when we are already in a committed relationship? What difference does it make? I attended the Bowen Centre’s Dating & Mating conference last month and reallyContinue reading “How does marriage change your relationship?”
What are your “sensitive” topics?
What are your “sensitive” topics? I once heard that a good indicator of a healthy relationship is to see if the couple can be comfortable in talking about ANY topics with each other. In other words, if the relationship is healthy, there should be very few “sensitive” subjects. In a healthy relationship, the couple willContinue reading “What are your “sensitive” topics?”
The perfect age to get married is…
The perfect age to get married is… I used to think 25 was the perfect age to get married. 25 was perfect because I would still be young. We could have a few years to ourselves and then we could have our first kid by 30. Perfect life eh? I had this all planned outContinue reading “The perfect age to get married is…”
Can I (truly) change a person?
Can I (truly) change a person? Recently, my husband asked me this question, “Do you think we can change another person?” And I thought for a moment. I think realistically, we can. We see it happen all the time. A husband doesn’t go out with his friends because he doesn’t want to upset his wife.Continue reading “Can I (truly) change a person?”
Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage
Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage From the very beginning, my goal has always been to build a healthy marriage and not a happy marriage. Why? In a happy marriage: Conflicts might be avoided at all costs There might be too much “us” and not enough “self” Couples might give up easily when the marriage isContinue reading “Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage”
Can you help me fix my partner?
Can you help me fix my partner? When couples come to therapy, I hear these questions a lot.. Can you help me fix my partner? Can you tell them why they are wrong? Can you tell them why they should listen to me? The truth is, I cannot fix them. You cannot fix them. NobodyContinue reading “Can you help me fix my partner?”
What are your non-negotiables?
What are your non-negotiables? Getting clear on what our own non-negotiables are is the first step in setting healthy boundaries in our relationship. Non-negotiables are things we will not budge on no matter what, and they are based on our own values and principles. They are different from the “nice-to-haves”. Some of us might haveContinue reading “What are your non-negotiables?”
Couples on the Road Counselling 