What is your relationship dance? (Part 2: The chase) Previously, we delved into a common dance observed in couples: The Circular Pattern of Conflict and Distance. One particular manifestation of this circular dance is what I called “The Chase”, in which there continues to be a pattern of conflict and distance in the relationship, butContinue reading “What is your relationship dance? (Part 2: The chase)”
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What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance)
What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance) The dynamics between a couple can often look like a dance, where their interactions follow a pattern that can become ingrained and repetitive. The first common one is the circular dance of conflict and distance. When tension arises, the couple often resorts to blaming, criticizing,Continue reading “What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance)”
Will I choose to forgive?
Will I choose to forgive? The topic of forgiveness came up in a recent marriage workshop that I’ve been attending and I really like the way they described forgiveness. Oftentimes, when it comes to dealing with unresolved hurt, we say, “But I just can’t forgive them”. But the truth is, it’s not so much aboutContinue reading “Will I choose to forgive?”
There are no quick fixes to relationship issues
There are no quick fixes to relationship issues I recently came across a BBC article that talks about the myth of boosting our immune systems and how there are no scientifically proven ways to do so through a superfood or pill. In there, it says “People prefer easy, quick solutions but health depends on veryContinue reading “There are no quick fixes to relationship issues”
Can I (truly) change a person?
Can I (truly) change a person? Recently, my husband asked me this question, “Do you think we can change another person?” And I thought for a moment. I think realistically, we can. We see it happen all the time. A husband doesn’t go out with his friends because he doesn’t want to upset his wife.Continue reading “Can I (truly) change a person?”
Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage
Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage From the very beginning, my goal has always been to build a healthy marriage and not a happy marriage. Why? In a happy marriage: Conflicts might be avoided at all costs There might be too much “us” and not enough “self” Couples might give up easily when the marriage isContinue reading “Happy Marriage vs. Healthy Marriage”
Talk to your partner, not your friend
Talk to your partner, not your friend The best person to talk to about the problems in your relationship isn’t your friend, your mom or your coworker or your brother. It’s the person who you are in the relationship with. Your partner is the who one who needs to know what’s on your mind, what’sContinue reading “Talk to your partner, not your friend”
How can you empower yourself in a stressful situation?
How can you empower yourself in a stressful situation? If you want to strengthen your relationship, then it’s important to break the cycle of reacting in stressful situations. Instead, try to empower yourself by responding. See below for the difference: Until next time!Maybo Couples On The Road Follow My Blog Get new content delivered directlyContinue reading “How can you empower yourself in a stressful situation?”
We can’t save each other, but money can?
We can’t save each other, but money can? I watched Minari over the weekend, and I absolutely loved the way it beautifully narrates the real struggles and tension between a married couple. *SPOILER ALERT* The movie talks about a Korean immigrant family in America, where the husband decides to move his whole family to aContinue reading “We can’t save each other, but money can?”
What is the #1 cause of divorce?
What is the #1 cause of divorce? Contrary to what you might have heard, the #1 cause of divorce is not because of any of the following… Money Sex Infidelity Kids The in-laws Addictions While these issues can put a strain on the marriage, they do not necessarily cause a divorce. How we choose toContinue reading “What is the #1 cause of divorce?”
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