“Does honouring one’s parents mean we need to lose ourselves?”. My presentation was on Navigating Caregiving from a Cultural Perspective—drawing from my husband’s personal story of caring for his father with dementia, and using Bowen Family Systems Theory to think through caregiving in a cultural context.
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There are no quick fixes to relationship issues
There are no quick fixes to relationship issues I recently came across a BBC article that talks about the myth of boosting our immune systems and how there are no scientifically proven ways to do so through a superfood or pill. In there, it says “People prefer easy, quick solutions but health depends on veryContinue reading “There are no quick fixes to relationship issues”
How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship?
How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship? Do you ever wonder why it is so easy for some people to lose themselves when they are in an intimate relationship? On the other hand, why do some people cutoff from everyone who they have conflicts with? I think Murray Bowen’s concept ofContinue reading “How much of a “self” do you have in a relationship?”
What do differences mean in a relationship?
What do differences mean in a relationship? The wife turns to her husband and says, “Look how pretty these trees are!” The husband replies, “Really?” The wife gets upset and says, “How come you never agree with what I say?!” And the argument begins… Does this dialogue sound familiar to you at all? While itContinue reading “What do differences mean in a relationship?”
How does marriage change your relationship?
How does marriage change your relationship? “Marriage is overrated.” This is something that I’ve heard more and more in recent years. Why do we need to sign a paper when we are already in a committed relationship? What difference does it make? I attended the Bowen Centre’s Dating & Mating conference last month and reallyContinue reading “How does marriage change your relationship?”
Can you help me fix my partner?
Can you help me fix my partner? When couples come to therapy, I hear these questions a lot.. Can you help me fix my partner? Can you tell them why they are wrong? Can you tell them why they should listen to me? The truth is, I cannot fix them. You cannot fix them. NobodyContinue reading “Can you help me fix my partner?”
What are your non-negotiables?
What are your non-negotiables? Getting clear on what our own non-negotiables are is the first step in setting healthy boundaries in our relationship. Non-negotiables are things we will not budge on no matter what, and they are based on our own values and principles. They are different from the “nice-to-haves”. Some of us might haveContinue reading “What are your non-negotiables?”
Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship?
Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship? Do you feel like you are always responsible for everything? Do you often wish that your partner could do more? Are you feeling tired of always having to pick up their slack? If so, you might be the overfunctioner in the relationship. The dynamic of over/underfunctioning in aContinue reading “Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship?”
NEW PREMARITAL COURSE: Ready, Set, I Do
NEW PREMARITAL COURSE: Ready, Set, I Do I am excited to announce that I will be partnering with Living Systems to teach a marriage preparation course, Ready, Set, I Do this coming Fall! This course is perfect for you if you and your partner are currently engaged or considering marriage. There will be many opportunitiesContinue reading “NEW PREMARITAL COURSE: Ready, Set, I Do”
Talk to your partner, not your friend
Talk to your partner, not your friend The best person to talk to about the problems in your relationship isn’t your friend, your mom or your coworker or your brother. It’s the person who you are in the relationship with. Your partner is the who one who needs to know what’s on your mind, what’sContinue reading “Talk to your partner, not your friend”
Couples on the Road Counselling 