Marriage is the union of two family systems

Marriage is the union of two family systems Does any of the following sound familiar to you? “Why does your mom have to call you every day?” “I would never parent my kids like the way my parents did!” “Do we have to spend the holidays with your relatives?” “Please don’t ever mention about myContinue reading “Marriage is the union of two family systems”

What is your win for today?

What is your win for today? This is something that I’ve learned from my husband. Even on the dullest day, he would ask me, “What is your win for today?”. Eventually, this became our habit. Instead of just asking each other, “How was your day?”, we also like to end the day by reflecting onContinue reading “What is your win for today?”

Is getting cold feet normal?

Is getting cold feet normal? Second guessing our own decision, especially the big ones like “SHOULD WE GET MARIRED?!” is not uncommon. The unknown can be scary. And all the what-if questions can start popping up in our heads… “What if we make the wrong decision?”“What if I’m not going to be a good husband/wife?”“WhatContinue reading “Is getting cold feet normal?”

What gets you triggered?

What gets you triggered? In any given relationship, there are 4 areas that we are naturally sensitive to as human beings. These are the four forces of sensitivity: Attention Approval Distress Expectations Of these four, we tend to be particularly sensitive to one of them. That means when we experience it (or lack thereof) inContinue reading “What gets you triggered?”

Is divorce an option?

Is divorce an option? One question that I would encourage all my couples to ask before they get married is…“Is divorce an option?”. I know it’s not a popular question. And it probably doesn’t feel right to ask when you are happily engaged. But it is an important one to ask yourself and each other.Continue reading “Is divorce an option?”

A healthy marriage starts from within

A healthy marriage starts from within When I was younger, I used to think that marriage has this superpower. That’s right, SUPERPOWER. I thought by getting married, it will help us overcome all our issues and everything will change for the better. But what I came to realize is that a marriage doesn’t change yourContinue reading “A healthy marriage starts from within”

Why work on your marriage before it begins?

Why work on your marriage before it begins? When it comes to doing premarital work, some common questions that I hear a lot from people are… “Why premarital therapy?” “Why now?” “Why can’t we wait until we have issues?” According to research*, couples who participate in premarital therapy or some sort of education program canContinue reading “Why work on your marriage before it begins?”

Marriage is a journey not a destination

Marriage is a journey not a destination You have come so far together. You are ready to make a lifelong commitment. Everything feels like it’s all about getting to this point. But remember it doesn’t just stop here, there is so much more the two of you will continue to experience together after your wedding.Continue reading “Marriage is a journey not a destination”

Therapy is not Q&A

Therapy is not Q&A I hate to break this to you, but if you are hoping that someone can tell you exactly what you should or should not do when you go to therapy, you will be disappointed. While a therapist might know what a healthy relationship looks like, we cannot give you an exactContinue reading “Therapy is not Q&A”

Free Resource: Premarital Workbook

Free Resource: Premarital workbook Are you currently engaged or considering getting married? This latest premarital workbook is designed to help you think about and discuss important topics with each other before you enter a lifelong commitment together – you can check it out here! Until next time!Maybo Couples On The Road Follow My Blog GetContinue reading “Free Resource: Premarital Workbook”