Can you help me fix my partner? When couples come to therapy, I hear these questions a lot.. Can you help me fix my partner? Can you tell them why they are wrong? Can you tell them why they should listen to me? The truth is, I cannot fix them. You cannot fix them. NobodyContinue reading “Can you help me fix my partner?”
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What are your non-negotiables?
What are your non-negotiables? Getting clear on what our own non-negotiables are is the first step in setting healthy boundaries in our relationship. Non-negotiables are things we will not budge on no matter what, and they are based on our own values and principles. They are different from the “nice-to-haves”. Some of us might haveContinue reading “What are your non-negotiables?”
Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship?
Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship? Do you feel like you are always responsible for everything? Do you often wish that your partner could do more? Are you feeling tired of always having to pick up their slack? If so, you might be the overfunctioner in the relationship. The dynamic of over/underfunctioning in aContinue reading “Are you an overfunctioner in the relationship?”
Talk to your partner, not your friend
Talk to your partner, not your friend The best person to talk to about the problems in your relationship isn’t your friend, your mom or your coworker or your brother. It’s the person who you are in the relationship with. Your partner is the who one who needs to know what’s on your mind, what’sContinue reading “Talk to your partner, not your friend”
Marriage is the union of two family systems
Marriage is the union of two family systems Does any of the following sound familiar to you? “Why does your mom have to call you every day?” “I would never parent my kids like the way my parents did!” “Do we have to spend the holidays with your relatives?” “Please don’t ever mention about myContinue reading “Marriage is the union of two family systems”
Couples on the Road Counselling 