Reflecting on my 18-year relationship, I’m sharing seven key lessons that have helped us stay connected and keep growing together through different seasons of life.
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Navigating Caregiving from a Cultural Perspective
“Does honouring one’s parents mean we need to lose ourselves?”. My presentation was on Navigating Caregiving from a Cultural Perspective—drawing from my husband’s personal story of caring for his father with dementia, and using Bowen Family Systems Theory to think through caregiving in a cultural context.
Happy Wife, Happy Life…Until It’s Not
We’ve all heard of the saying “happy wife, happy life.” At first, it seems like a light-hearted relationship advice, maybe even good wisdom. But if we take a closer look at it, this saying is actually quite misleading and in the long run, it can even be harmful to your relationship.
Struggling With Infertility Is a Form of Grief
Grief doesn’t always come from death. Sometimes, it comes from the quiet, unseen loss of a dream—like the hope of becoming a parent. Infertility can feel like an invisible kind of grief, one that few acknowledge but many silently carry.
I Feel Disconnected From My Partner, What Should I Do?
Feeling distant in a relationship is more common than you think. This post explores what you can do when you feel disconnected from your partner — starting with curiosity.
What is your relationship dance? (Part 3: The Seesaw)
What is your relationship dance? (Part 3: The Seesaw) The Seesaw is a common relationship dance found not only in couples but also in our daily interactions with the people around us. In this dynamic, one person starts to take on more responsibilities (“overfunctioning”) while the other becomes increasingly dependent (“underfunctioning”). The more one partnerContinue reading “What is your relationship dance? (Part 3: The Seesaw)”
What is your relationship dance? (Part 2: The chase)
What is your relationship dance? (Part 2: The chase) Previously, we delved into a common dance observed in couples: The Circular Pattern of Conflict and Distance. One particular manifestation of this circular dance is what I called “The Chase”, in which there continues to be a pattern of conflict and distance in the relationship, butContinue reading “What is your relationship dance? (Part 2: The chase)”
What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance)
What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance) The dynamics between a couple can often look like a dance, where their interactions follow a pattern that can become ingrained and repetitive. The first common one is the circular dance of conflict and distance. When tension arises, the couple often resorts to blaming, criticizing,Continue reading “What is your relationship dance? (Part 1: The circular dance)”
Couples on the Road Counselling 