Why you should focus on yourself

Focusing on yourself….it’s what we should do, but also, it’s really the only thing we can do.

When we focus on our partner instead of ourselves, it might look something like this:

• Constantly telling them what they should or should not do
• Complaining about them
• Always doing things for them that they could do on their own

When we get caught up on focusing on the other person, it’s easy for us to feel upset, tired and resentful. That’s because all our energy is focused on adjusting them and we rely on them to make us feel better.    

As much as we like to think that we are inseparable from our partner, the reality is, we are still two individual beings with our own emotions, thoughts and behaviours. We can never make anyone change (willingly), even if that person is our lifetime partner. We can only control the part that we play and decide how we want to manage ourselves in any given situation.